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EP418: You are Completely Flawesome with Kristina Mand-Lahkiani

EP418: You are Completely Flawesome with Kristina Mand-Lahkiani


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In the event you”ve ever been arduous on your self, I’ve a particular invitation only for you. Within the newest episode of the Thrive by Design podcast, I had an inspiring dialog with Kristina Mand-Lahkiani, creator of the empowering e book, Changing into Flawesome. Kristina can also be the co-founder of Mindvalley, the famend private growth platform. Collectively, we explored the trail to self-love and the way it can remodel your life.

How we be taught to be self-critical

From a really younger age, we’re advised that to succeed, now we have to work on our weaknesses and errors. Kristina shared an instance of what she calls the crimson marker method, which matches like this… 

You write an essay, and your trainer takes a crimson marker and factors out all your errors, offers it again to you, and says, ‘Work in your errors, then you definately’ll be a hit.’ 

This can be a frequent paradigm in society, that reinforces our sample of at all times on the lookout for what’s fallacious after which making an attempt to repair it. However there’s one other, much less common paradigm known as the inexperienced marker method. 

On this state of affairs, the trainer takes your essay and highlights all the pieces you probably did very well, offers it again to you, and says, ‘Work in your strengths, and that is how you’ll succeed.’ Our society usually doesn’t work this manner, however think about if it did.

We dwell within the paradigm of a crimson marker method 

The eventualities we’re uncovered to show us that to succeed, now we have to establish and work on our weaknesses. Inevitably, this results in self-criticism.

In Episode 418 Kristina delves into our beliefs similar to…

  • We now have to sacrifice all the pieces for the final word success 
  • To succeed, it has to return with blood, sweat, tears, and sacrifices
  • Our progress stems from a concern of punishment

We develop up believing that to succeed, now we have to provide ourselves robust love. 

Hardly ever are we inspired or proven the opposite technique to succeed which is by means of encouragement, not punishment.

Reinforcing Our Beliefs

There may be scientific proof that for those who imagine in one thing, you are going to discover the proof of that perception. The reticular activating system in your mind filters out the stimuli as a result of you may’t register all the pieces. So as an alternative you discover what you concentrate on. And that is how our beliefs get bolstered. 

Subsequently for those who imagine that for achievement, it’s essential to sacrifice one thing, you’ll solely discover the proof of that. This brings us again to criticism and the concept that you must work in your weaknesses and punish your self, with the intention to succeed.

Get out of the Behavior of Criticizing Your self

Kristina explains that self-awareness is the basic talent for private progress. 

“Consciousness lets you discover issues, the way in which they occur the way in which they affect life. After which it additionally offers you the will to alter one thing and the motivation to maintain doing that.” 

Along with studying the way to be self-aware, Kristina talks about:

  • The influence of our beliefs and the way they form our actuality
  • The significance of self-awareness and its position in private progress
  • The darkish facet of non-public growth
  • The important thing abilities for self-love: honesty, kindness, and braveness
  • The hazards of narcissism and religious bypassing
  • And a lot extra!

Self Love is greater than self-care

Typically we expect, ‘I haven’t got time for my private well-being as a result of my enterprise is failing or my daughter received’t pay attention’ or another exterior issues. However in actuality the issue is along with your well-being which then interprets into your enterprise and your relationships.

Right here’s a fast overview of Episode 418:

[6:32] How the e book turned about self-love

[12:14] The crimson marker method

[17:24] The three abilities wanted for private growth

[20:06] The darkish facet of non-public progress

[28:39] Being within the sphere of a narcissist

[37:17] The perfect life is a dance, not a vacation spot

In the event you’re like many artists and jewellery designers and you wrestle with self-criticism, immediately’s episode is a must-listen. I assure you will discover it relatable and provoking. 

Embrace your flawesome self and dive into the highly effective dialog about self-love. Belief me, you are going to like it!

Xo, Tracy

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